CyberCheapskates and Net Gold Diggers

Did you know that Match.com has around twelve million members, but only a million or so of those listed have paid their dues?

The most asked questions from Romance Clients? "Why don't they answer my emails?" Well, first off, you don't know and never will. But it's a pretty good guess is that this guy or lady is cheap.

If you have had much experience as an Internet dater, you've undoubtedly had the experience of putting out first email contacts to prospective Sweetheart and then gotten no answer back. A response rate of 30% to first emails is considered good!

On Match.com as well as many of the other Internet dating sites, you can post a profile for free, but you have to pay to email other listers or respond to emails sent to you.

You can't tell the payers from the freeloaders. And people who aren't paid members can't email, either to contact you first, or to answer when you write. That means that a very high percentage of those people you are carefully looking over are too cheap to pay less than a dollar a day to be able to email you!

Maybe that's a lot of what's behind the 30% who do get back to you. They're the only ones who are paid up!

Though I live now in Mississippi with my new husband Drew, I'm from Maine. I still own a house there on a beautiful island in the mid-coast area, so I get back to visit once or twice a year. Every spring, after the snow melts, all the debris that has accumulated over the winter along the roadsides gets exposed to the light of day. And along with tulips and daffodils, up spring the "For Sale" signs.

For years I wondered about why so many houses came up for sale every spring. Every other house seems to be on the market.

Finally, someone explained to me that lots of folks just put out those "For Sale" signs sort of for sport. All the locals know that summer people are heading this way, and those "city folks" have very distorted ideas about fair property values. So the sport is to put out a "For Sale" sign, ask a very inflated price, and see if anyone will bite. If you're lucky and catch a rich one, you just may be able to fund your retirement. Otherwise, life goes on, you get to stay in your house, and then try again next year. Sounds like a form of digging for gold to me.

Believe it or not, lots of people who are listed on dating sites are doing just that: They put out their "For Sale" sign with their profile and look like they are seriously "in the market" for a Sweetheart. Really, they have a way over-inflated idea of what they can get and are waiting to see if some fool will bite. These folks have stuck out their "For Sale" sign, but they aren't seriously looking. Except for the jackpot.

In the Internet dating world, this is deceptive advertising in the worse way, because the reader has no way of knowing if the profiler they are interested in is really serious and a paid-up member or not. The ONLY people on these online dating sites who are emailing anyone are the ones who have paid! All the others are freeloading teases.

If you are considering CyberRomance or are already posted on a site or two, pay your dues like a grown-up. Do your part to contribute to the energy and integrity of this wonderful resource for singles. If there's a time to "put your money where your mouth is," this is it. If you're serious, pay up. If you're not serious, stay out of the game.

Kathryn Lord, Romance Coach
Helping singles find someone wonderful!
eBk: "Find A Sweetheart Soon! Your Love Trip Planner for Women""
4870 Oak Ridge Road, Vicksburg, MS 39183 / Ph. 601-619-0030
Stay current with my complimentary enewsletter *eMAIL to eMATE*
Subscribe at http://find-a-sweetheart.com/newsletter.html
www.Find-A-Sweetheart.com / Kathryn@Find-A-Sweetheart.com

---

Better Links Directory

Dating After Divorce: Things To Think About Regarding Dating After Divorce

Dating after divorce is a much debated topic due to... Read More

Why Date Online?

More and more people in the UK are turning to... Read More

Online Dating. Is It Taken To Seriously?

When I look at alot of the online dating services... Read More

Dating Options for Christian Singles

As a Christian, you understand that to visit bars, nightclubs,... Read More

Who Says Online Datings Only For Losers?

I let that friend talk me into browsing some pictures... Read More

Healing the Midlife Love Crisis

All I wanted was to fall in love and live... Read More

Dating Rules - Show Tolerance, be Easy

You should show a tolerant and open-minded attitude towards many... Read More

Does Internet Dating Work?

What's the Number One Question that Everyone Asks About CyberDating?Everyone... Read More

How to Find the Background of Your Online Date

The popularity of online dating has increased dramatically over the... Read More

Finding a Safe Dating Site

Seems like everywhere we surf on the Internet nowadays we... Read More

8 Steps to Scoring Big in a Bar

If you're single, you've probably gone to a singles bar... Read More

Stimulation

You get her number, set up the date, take her... Read More

How Did Online Dating Become So Popular?

SpeedTry to picture what used to happen earlier in the... Read More

First Date ? Tips for Women

You are on your way to your first date with... Read More

A Dating Story From My Youth

One of my first "Big Dates" was a Cotillion dance... Read More

A Revolution Has Come To Online Dating

There is truly a revolution going on in the online... Read More

Hes So Not Into You

These are words women don't want to hear when they're... Read More

Relationship Room

Just recently, I felt ready to experience change in a... Read More

Dating in a Modern World

As the UK Online Dating market keeps on growing day... Read More

Blind Date

Very few singles have ever gone through life without having... Read More

Selecting an Online Dating Site

So you are thinking of giving online dating a try... Read More

Are You Dating a Potential Cheater?

Most single woman seeking a committed relationship would rather avoid... Read More

Adult Personals ? Fulfilling Your Fantasies Through Adult Dating Websites

People are talking about adult personals. There's no doubt about... Read More

Dating Tips For Animal Lovers!

Did you know that experts say the way people treat... Read More

Faster, Cheaper, Better ­ P2P Online Dating Software

There is one thing we all know for certain when... Read More